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Forgiveness is a choice, not a feeling. First, acknowledge the hurt honestly to God. Remember how much God forgave you (Ephesians 4:32). Choose to release the person from your judgment—trusting God for justice. This may take time and repeated choice. Forgiveness doesn't mean reconciliation or excusing wrong.
Why this answer? It starts with Colossians 3:13, then cross-checks Matthew 18:21-35 and Mark 11:25 so the summary stays anchored in Scripture.
This answer explains how to forgive someone who hurt you by connecting honest grief, God's forgiveness, releasing judgment, justice, Colossians 3:13, and repeated obedience.
“Bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive.”
- Colossians 3:13
Forgiveness is releasing someone from the debt of their offense. God forgives our sins through Christ's sacrifice—not counting them against us (2 Corinthians 5:19). We're called to forgive others as God forgave us. Forgiveness doesn't excuse wrong but releases bitterness and trusts God for justice.
The Bible commands us to forgive others as God forgave us (Ephesians 4:32). When Peter asked if forgiving seven times was enough, Jesus said seventy-seven times—meaning unlimited forgiveness (Matthew 18:22). Unforgiveness harms us and hinders our prayers. God's forgiveness of us motivates forgiving others.
Jesus healed many during His ministry, demonstrating God's compassion and power. James 5:14-15 instructs elders to pray over the sick with oil. God can heal—sometimes He does miraculously, sometimes through medicine, sometimes in eternity. Ultimate healing comes in the resurrection.
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Answers are informed by Scripture and trusted theologians including Matthew Henry, John Calvin, and John Wesley. Always verify with Scripture and consult your local church for pastoral guidance.